Claudia Cooley

Creating Powerful and Fulfilling Relationships

Relationships are fragile and strong all at the same time… and it starts with YOU!

I get so excited to be talking about “Relationships” and sharing tips for creating amazing ones on your journey.  I hope you’ll be inspired to create the life you love fully surrounded by people you love and they love you. I call this “Living Life in Balance” and it is like a dance… find your rhythm, then create the harmony by moving to your own beat.”   Moving to your own beat, your own genius, ignites confidence and your purpose. This is where the magic begins and you will find real fulfillment, happiness, fun, freedom and abundance. Then let the dance be even more magnificent, invite others to share in the music with you.

Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.”

~A.A. Milne.”

Each morning when I arrive in my kitchen, I stare out my window to our water fountain where I watch one hummingbird show up regularly. Once the first one shows up, others start to appear. As very energetic birds, you would think they might be too busy to have friends and to cultivate friendships. However, they totally enjoy being connected with others. They dart around playfully for a bit, then off they go to take care of the responsibilities of their day. Nature shows us the beauty in friendships, just as Piglet also showed us by saying to Pooh, “I just wanted to be sure of you.” 

People often ask me about my long marriage, fifty years plus. Just recently a young woman asked me how we created such a long-lasting relationship. She really wanted some specifics, so I shared the essence of building any quality relationship, as I believe to be true. These are the key ingredients: Love, Trust, Forgiveness, Celebrating our likenesses and differences, Respect, and always practicing great Communication (listening more than talking). She smiled and seemed grateful.  I might not ever see her again, however, my hope is that she’ll practice these simple ingredients to build a beautiful life.

Another of our secret ingredients… the special sauce so to speak, is that we meet every morning in the kitchen for an amazing hug.  This morning hug reconnects us … just like Pooh said…”I just wanted to be sure of you.” And for me, it is being sure of “us.”

I believe relationships have a divine order. The first and most important relationship for me is my spiritual relationship with God. This has been a strong connection for me since I was a teenager. I know my life has been designed with a purpose, and I travel that road with intention and feel blessed each day. This is a priority.  

 If you’ve ever heard me speak or read any of my books, I always cover the power of loving yourself and the benefits to your self-esteem.  This is the second most important relationship to cultivate. You are worthy and deserve to be loved and cherished for who you are and who you are becoming.  As you begin to love yourself and believe that you deserve to be loved, you are equipped to love others much more powerfully. This is my conversation… there is no one like me. I’m the only one with this design, I don’t have to compete with anyone, just define who I’m meant to be, and determine how I can make a difference in the world with my gifts. Then go out and do it.  Be the best version of my design.

Thirdly, relationships with others give life substance and meaning. The first thing that comes to mind is “warm fuzzy” love, which of course I cherish in my long-lasting relationship with my husband, Dale. And I feel a similar love for my children and grandchildren. It’s a feeling from deep in my heart. You are probably like me, having life-long friendships. My friend Sandy and I have been Best Buds for over 60 years. She couldn’t be more of a sister to me if we’d shared the same parents. In fact this friendship was the training ground for more wonderful friendships to follow.

However, not all relationships stem from that same emotional level. Many times in the beginning it’s a choice we make to care about another. And then this can be just the beginning of a beautiful friendship. Living life this long, I’ve been through the Friendship and Relationship 101 Class, and know for a fact that you can create wonderful connections with others that just might grow into deeper and deeper friendships over time.

Feeding a relationship

Relationships and growing relationships is one of the most important aspects of my life.  As you can probably tell, I get excited just talking about this subject. We all thrive within healthy relationships and friendships.  So let’s create some awesome ones. Compliment freely, send thank you and appreciation notes regularly, and remember no one is just like you, so forgive them for those differences. Dale and I learned in marriage, never ever go to bed mad. Great advice we received from someone long ago. Treat other relationships with that same level of respect, nurturing and even forgiveness.  And remember, the more you love yourself, the more you are able to love others.

***Watch for my next Relationships Tip… Finding your “Balcony People” for your life.

October 5, 2019
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