To live the dream- takes work

To Live the “Dream” … Takes “Work”

couple1Just as I was turning seventeen, a miracle happened. As I was cheerleading at a high school game, this very handsome college guy comes from the stands where a past boyfriend felt compelled to introduce us. Even though I was dating someone else at the time, when Dale asked me out… I couldn’t say no. In fact, I could hardly find my voice to say yes. He had taken my breath away.

After we had been out on a couple of dates he asked if he could pick me up at school. I’ll never ever forget this day. The rules were that non-students weren’t allowed on the campus, even after school, so we determined he would pickClaudiaAndDale me up on 3rd street right at the school’s edge. As I hurried to meet him at 3:00 p.m., I was pretty excited and as he stepped out of the car… the same thing happened again. He so took my breath away and my heart was beating so fast in my chest… it almost hurt. This was the beginning of a wonderful love story. Later years, as he told his story with our granddaughter, he shared he had the same feelings and felt this was our beginning of a long journey…and he was right.

People often ask us what is our secret to 55 years of marriage that still is “A Love Story”. There is no secret really, other than the fact that we had a powerful dream to make the entire journey together for a lifetime, a faith in God and the richest friendship. Is it always easy… heavens no?

We both had a lot of growing up to do. I was 19yrs old and he was 23. When we married he was in college and I was a teller at the bank in the beautiful area of San Luis Obispo, CA. We weren’t living close to any family, which allowed us to really establish our own connection and focus on each other. Do you remember when you had the time to focus on your significant other and were totally present all the time? This was a “secret” we didn’t realize and later had to re-ignite that deep focus and commitment once again.

I believe we might fall “in and out of love” with our partner like the waves roll in and out at the ocean… however, the trick to keeping that going is staying present… however, if you fuel “Love” everyday, that deep seed of love… this is your foundation and it will always be inside of you both.

ClaudiaAndDale2Most of you know this past year was a bit scary. A true reminder of holding on tight to each other over the years, appreciating all of the good qualities and cheering each other on to become your personal best. I love the books titled “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” and that certainly is a good habit to build.

When Dale had his health event, a heart attach and open heart surgery, almost a year ago, (actually the day after our 54th anniversary), I realized how our journey could have been cut short. I even had an instant that I went to that space in my mind, and then began praying and believing for our “Dream” to stay alive. The movie “Up” is sweet, but it made me sad that they didn’t get to share their dream together. They waited too long. I’m so grateful that Dale and I have kept engaged in our dreams and know there is more to come.

This is the message I want you to receive from my sharing this deep story with you. Don’t waste any minutes; with you significant other, children, friends and those you care so much about. Tell them every day how special they are. Dale and I meet every morning in the kitchen and stand in front of the sink where we can hear the fountain and see ClaudiaAndDale4the hummingbirds and just hug… yes… hold each other tight for as long as we want. We can’t help but have an amazing day because we fill up on the energy of our love and today we share this with you too. Oh yes… AND have some fun along the way.

PS… He still takes my breath away when he comes in the back door at night.
Warmly submitted,
Claudia Cooley
2016

September 2, 2016
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